Ecclesiastes 4:11 for September 6
~And on a cold night, two under the same blanket can gain warmth from each other. But how can one be warm alone?~
It’s amazing how many couples go to bed at different times. Maybe it’s ‘normal’, but it’s not necessarily healthy for a vital marriage.
Too many couples live parallel lives. They spend much of their time doing different jobs, enjoying different hobbies, and talking with different friends. If a couple isn’t careful, this creates a distant marriage. Sure, partners might eat together, go to church together, and even sleep in the same bed, but they’ve lost their sense of closeness.
When you go to bed at the same time, you create a perfect opportunity to reconnect and rebuild your togetherness. To end the day together is a reminder that the two of you are one. So aside quality time just before you go to sleep. Make this a special time. Go into your bedroom together and close the door, shutting out all the busyness, stress, and distractions of the world.
This ought to be the most positive room in your house. Make it a pleasant place of peace to which you and your spouse long to escape. Clear out the clutter, give it a fresh coat of paint, set up a CD player, add some romantic touches, and create an atmosphere that you both enjoy. If your bedroom is a positive place to be, you’ll be drawn to it more often.
The half hour before bedtime can be the best time of your day. If you’re creative with this special time, it will build wonderful memories, intimate moments, and a better marriage.
By going into the bedroom and getting into be together, you can create a time foe sharing with one another. Lying side by side, looking into one another’s eyes, make a real effort to share what’s on your heart. At the end of the day, your defenses are down and this allows your heart to be more open. Many people feel that the half before bed is the best time of the whole day. But if you don’t go to bed at the same time, you’ll miss this opportunity. This is much more than opportunity to share; it’s an opportunity to make your marriage better.
We could all benefit from a better marriage.
borrowed from 20 Rules and Tools for a Great Marriage, by Dr. Steve Stephens. Want to know about Dr. Stephens, visit: www.drstevestephens.com