2 Samuel 15:1-4, 6
1 In the course of time, Absalom provided himself with a chariot and horses and with fifty men to run ahead of him. 2 He would get up early and stand by the side of the road leading to the city gate. Whenever anyone came with a complaint to be placed before the king for a decision, Absalom would call out to him, "What town are you from?" He would answer, "Your servant is from one of the tribes of Israel." 3 Then Absalom would say to him, "Look, your claims are valid and proper, but there is no representative of the king to hear you." 4 And Absalom would add, "If only I were appointed judge in the land! Then everyone who has a complaint or case could come to me and I would see that he gets justice."
6 Absalom behaved in this way toward all the Israelites who came to the king asking for justice, and so he stole the hearts of the men of Israel.
Stubbornly independent people make some of the worst leaders and followers in the kingdom of God. The determination to “do it my way” is a great barrier to Christian unity. If we are concerned with what we want rather than what others need, it’s time to check our attitude with the Lord.
Proud independent people like Absalom are usually the first to rebel against spiritual leaders. They don’t want to be in submission to others, so they accuse leaders of being insensitive or authoritarian. If we are independent as leaders, we may be indifferent or hostile to input from team members, insensitive to their feelings and set on achieving our own aims.
Jesus challenges us by his example to lay down our lives for one another for the sake of love and unity [John 15:12-13].
Identify areas in your life where you are independent of God and others. Ask God to help you submit your will to him and to other believers.