~He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers; or else I will come and strike the land with a curse.~
Whether we have good, bad, or “in-between” parents, we all find ourselves in conflict with them at times. If we allow these conflicts to fester and to prevent us from following the Bible’s command to honor parents [Deut. 5:16], the result will be bitterness.
Bitterness springs from a lack of forgiveness of real or imagined injustices. Add self-pity and ingratitude, and the “fire” of bitterness is only fueled. Eventually resentment and rebellion can easily follow.
So what’s the way out? Remember that there is no situation where we’re 10% wrong and our parents are 90% wrong. God judges the heart, and ANY heart that isn’t right is 100% WRONG!! Our personal responsibility is to confess our own faults [poor attitude, selfishness, ingratitude, and the like] and choose to forgive the faults of others. The result? We won’t always agree with each other, but our hearts will be kept tender with a desire to communicate about the issue at hand.
Are you in conflict with your parents? Ask God where your faults are and confess them. Choose to forgive. Remember that Jesus has the power to heal broken relationships.